Disclaimer: This is actually a post I wrote about a while ago. But it still holds true.
I have been stooped by many questions in my 22 years of living. But recently, one has come up and has utterly shocked me in the I-can’t-believe-you’d-ask that kind of way. But then I backed up and thought to myself, “Well, maybe they really are asking and don’t understand.”
We all know that my husband and I are newlyweds. But what you don’t know is that we actively made a choice to do as many things in our life together as possible. Together, we made the decision to work as a team to complete tasks from yard work to cleaning toilets.
But some do not find this to be the ideal. Some have chosen to judge this decision we made. Some have asked, “Why do you always have to be together?” And that’s worded nicely compared to their actual question.
The answer is rather simple. Because we choose to. Because for many nights, we are apart because of his job while they’re sitting cuddled with their spouse all night every night. Because he works many weekends when I’m off and I work week days when he’s off. Because I love him. Because he loves me. Because we’re married for crying out loud.
People have asked why he does house work when I’m there. Or why do I do yard work when he’s there. Am I above yard work? Am I too good, too dainty, too petite for yard work? Is he too big, too manly, too strong for house work?
Maybe, just maybe, if they’d do more together with their spouses, they would be happier people and wouldn’t make snide remarks about our time together. Maybe their marriage would actually feel like one instead of feeling like two people just existing in the same world.
It’s not as if it’s some huge secret of why we choose to live and work together. The Bible itself says I am given as his help mate. Who am I to argue? Am I just here to help in the way that society approves for me to help him? Or am I to help him in any and every way possible? I’ll take and gladly follow the latter.
With this new-age (or not so new) thinking, it seems like many couples are singles (sadly…that probably accounts for the extreme rise in divorce rates). Out for themselves and what they want and what they desire instead of what they as a couple and team want and desire. Besides God, my husband is my priority. I put him first in my heart and beyond him everyone and everything goes. And ya know what? That’s reciprocated from him. In his heart, I’m first and beyond me everything else goes. And we’re happy with that.
So just in case the questions really is earnestly asked, herein lies the answer.
